“Mother” of all Necessities – what moms really need this Mother’s day?

The least we can do for our mothers is hold our worlds by the collar and bring it to a standstill for just one day in a year and acknowledge the extraordinary that exists so ordinarily, for us!

Mother. No matter the language, the one word that can transport you in an instant to a safe and comfortable zone, brimming you with emotions of varying degrees and hurling you through a canopy of memories.

Mother’s day is once again upon us and we can surely brace ourselves for an avalanche of social media homages. Don’t get me wrong, those are extremely sweet. I just hope they are shared in person as well rather than sitting idle as a designated memory on timelines.

There seems to be a general consensus that mother’s day should be celebrated every single day and this one-off celebration is a sham.

I can definitely understand the emotion behind that. The maternal marvel has been well documented throughout history, through experiences, books, music, art, and of course movies. So it is only prudent to give uniform importance to our mothers throughout the year and not just on one specific day, which at times acts as another day to sensationalize people into spending money. Pondering about this, brought up a few non-linear thoughts.

Our entire lives are fundamentally defined by our mother, both literally and figuratively. We are who we are, at our very core, because of the way we are brought up. When the chips are down and you bank on nothing but yourself to work things out, remember, you owe that your mother. A random google search showed that, on average a person meets about 80,000 people in a lifetime. Most of them will not alter your life and some of them will alter your life beyond your imagination. We can go awry or we can become an entirely different person but the core values we possess, instilled by our mothers stick around pretty much till the end.

We often grow up with a perfect image of our mothers, a superwoman of sorts, who can do it all and do no wrong. This hinders us from acknowledging that our mother is a human being too. One with feelings, emotions, flaws, shortcomings, and in spite of all that she appeared perfect to us. Now that’s a superpower indeed. All of us are guilty of throwing tantrums, asking for too much and being selfish with our mother, just because we could afford to. She would take it all, absorb all the things we threw at her, standing tall.

Silly emotional manipulations are a common trait with most mothers. It ranges from telling false tales, forcing the child to eat, to waking up a teenager at 7 am, telling it is 9 am. I’m sure there are many more examples but although the actions seem wrong on a black and white screen, going against the very principles she tries to instill of not telling lies, she resorts to it for the good of her child.

During the downward waves of life, we often find ourselves down a dark hole, where there isn’t anyone and we have given up on ourselves too, but your mother just will not. She will find her own way, to get you back up and the funny part is you won’t even understand what she did. It may even appear like she is causing more pain, and she still goes ahead to pick you up. She will scream at you, pray for you, and anything else necessary to help you.

I know most of it seems so ordinary but that’s the point. Such insane and infinite amount of love, care and sacrifice are bundled into one role, which withstands the test of time and beyond, seeking nothing in return, yet existing so normally out there. You could be 70 and your 100-year-old mother will still ask if you have eaten properly.

Celebrating mother’s day, every single day, blending it in with the normal course of life would leave it stranded among the host of things that fill up our lives. I think the least we can do for our mothers is hold our worlds by the collar and bring it to a standstill for just one day in a year and acknowledge the extraordinary that exists so ordinarily, for us.

Also, if you insist on celebrating it throughout the year, please help your mom with chores. I’m sure she’ll be super happy.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers!